Tonya Sheridan Gives Her Insight Into the Law of Allowing
the Necessary Fourth Step to Utilizing the Universal Law of Attraction
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Putting the Universal Law of Attraction into play requires completing the following four steps:
- ask for what you want
- believe it is already yours
- let go
The fourth step, the Law of Allowing, is often the most difficult. But in order to fully manifest what you want, it is necessary.
So, what does the law of allowing require?
The Law of Allowing requires that you put yourself into a state of openness and non-resistance to everything and everyone. This is a two-fold process that begins with allowing good energy to flow through you, around you, and in you.
Although this is our natural creative state, far too many of us have allowed negative, habitual thought patterns to form. Think about it. How much of your precious time do you spend mulling over and expressing disapproving thoughts about yourself, your job or your life? How much energy do you waste entertaining and conveying negative judgements or opinions, getting mad at others for being who they are, or obsessively taking in every nuance of the latest tragedy?
It might seem harmless, after all you are just thinking and talking, you are not actually DOING anything. But the fact is, remaining in a place of judgement, fear, anxiety, or anger, keeps you aligned with lower vibrational frequencies. Remember, the Universal Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like.”
So if your vibration remains low, you will attract to you experiences and people who cause you to continue to stay in a low vibration and block things from you that will raise your vibration.
How do you know if you are aligned with lower vibrational frequencies or higher ones?
The best way to begin this discovery process is to pay attention to what is going on in your body and how you feel emotionally. When you align yourself with lower energy frequencies you will have tightness somewhere in your body. It could be your stomach, neck or shoulders. You might have a headache or backache. You will feel sad, hopeless, fearful, anxious, separate, maybe even hateful the majority of the time. When you think of others you feel judgment, jealousy, and annoyance.
When you align yourself with higher energy frequencies you will feel a lightness in your body and mind. You will feel a sense of flow and unity with everything. Emotionally, you will feel love and warmth, hope, excitement and passion the majority of the time. When you think about others you do so from a viewpoint of empathy and compassion.
Once you have the hang of paying attention to what is going on in your body and how you feel emotionally, begin to experiment with different thoughts. Identify which ones make you feel emotionally and physically good; which ones make your shoulders drop or your stomach unclench; and which thoughts yield feelings of joy, contentment and peace.
Also start to notice which circumstance and people trigger negative thoughts. How do you feel after watching the evening news? What kind of thoughts are going on in your mind after participating in an office gossip session? Try replacing the evening news with a silly sit-com and choose to skip the gossip session by going for a 15 minute walk instead. Notice if you feel safer, happier and more accepting.
However, once you discover the benefits of not watching the news, for example, it will be tempting for you to want to “convert” your family and friends. Sharing what you’ve discovered is fine, but be careful not take on the low energy of self-righteousness or judgment.
This brings up the second part in the two-fold process of the Law of Allowing
The second part is that you allow everyone to be as they are. Judging, tolerating, and attempting to change others is the opposite of allowing.
The Law of Allowing requires that you are not feeling negative emotions in relation to what others are doing.
If someone is doing something that annoys you or making decisions that you know are not in her best interest, it is appropriate for you to communicate your point of view in an emotionally neutral way, but then you must let it go. Do not push back, try to change her, tolerate what she is doing or try to figure out why she does what she does.
When you are in a place of allowing, you are no longer presuming that you know what is right and wrong for someone else. You allow her to continue on her individual path and see her lessons through.
If you cannot maintain a neutral vibration towards someone else, take steps to remove yourself from his or her presence. And then from this separate space, spend time raising your vibration by thinking about this person from a place of compassion and empathy.
The Universal Law of Attraction is simple in concept but complex in it application.
There are many subtleties and nuisances to applying the Universal Law of Attraction. Some consider it an art form because it requires in-depth study and tireless practice to master.
This blog is in no way intended to be a stand-alone piece. If you are intrigued by what you read and listened to in my interview with Tonya Sheridan be sure to check out her website.
A couple of blogs devoted specifically to the Law of Allowing are All Your Life and The Art of Allowing Yourself and Others to Succeed.
Read about the Law of Deliberate Creation